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There is a scene in an old Western or two in which a crooked banker ties up his own hands or lets someone else do it to give the appearance he was robbed. Think about how you falsely tie yourself up …
There is a scene in an old Western or two in which a crooked banker ties up his own hands or lets someone else do it to give the appearance he was robbed. Think about how you falsely tie yourself up when you blame someone else for your problems.
When you blame a spouse, child, parent, boss, co-worker that you did not get the break, respect, success you wanted, you tie yourself to blame. Life has misunderstandings, bad referees, self-seeking bosses, changes in the weather that are out of our control. We cannot make “luck” happen. (I do not believe in luck. Luck is a way of blaming something besides you and giving away responsibility.)
But you can control your responses, untying yourself. I admit that I, like most men, get mad at wife or family member when I am really mad at myself. Paul warns us (Galatians 6:7-10). You are actually in control when you sow seeds of impatience, degrading language, bitterness when you blast someone. Do not try to mock God with excuses. His word says that what you sow is what you reap. If you scatter seeds of base human nature you reap that. If you sow seeds of encouragement, forgiveness, confidence in God, you see them grow in others. When you sow the qualities and principles of God’s Spirit, you witness that you have eternal life.
That is how we untie ourselves from others. The challenge is that we take time to develop and practice characteristics and responses. They come out of our biblically informed spiritual perspective. We respond by what we know to be right, not what we feel pressured to give. I still get impatient with myself when I do it wrong again, and I have been walking with the Lord a very long time. So you may not see results you want for a long time. Do not let weariness keep you from trying. You would not let weariness stop your game in the 3rd quarter. Your witness that honors God shows in how you are trying for his will even when you miss a shot or a rebound. It takes time to practice responding from God’s perspective. It takes time for the seeds to grow in others we influence. So untie yourself. D. L. Moody said, “Do all the good you can to all the people you can for as long as you can.”
Charlie Murphy, retired Pastor, after nearly 54 years in various ministries, now lives in Milan, TN. He enjoys grandkids, basketball, and people. Contact him at email@example.com.